13 November 2008 | Attitude, Business, Career, Family, Money, Relationships | admin

All day long I talk to people who act as though they are on sale - and I don’t mean FOR sale, but ON sale.  I can spot it anywhere because I used to be on sale.  I was on sale in every area of my life - career, relationships, financially, emotionally - you name it and I was there at a deep discount.

So, I am going to share with you the 10 ways that you know you are on sale.  If any of these apply to you, change your thinking, change your mind, and instead of thinking of yourself as a deal at Marshall’s, consider yourself a limited edition from Vera Wang.

1. You give away your expertise for free.  This includes any work that you give away to friends and acquaintances for free but others are expected to pay a fee. I am not talking about the occasional pro-bono work. I am talking about regularly giving away your knowledge, time and expertise and not receiving anything in return.

2. You blame your financial situation on the fact that you don’t know what to do with your money. If you don’t know what to do, figure it out!

3. You fail to put money away for yourself because you think you don’t deserve that gift. Maybe you work inside the home (taking care of kids) and you don’t think that constitute a real job. Or, you think your salary is not significant enough for you to make financial decisions. Or, you think it is your duty to give everything to your family no matter how much you make. This is a mistake. Make sure you have a fund that is yours and yours alone. Build it up and feel confident knowing you can survive and thrive if a rainy day ever comes your way.

4. You feel guilty about taking money, whether earned, inherited, or otherwise legally obtained. Money is simply an energy exchange and whether you know it or not, the relationship you have with money directly impacts how much of it will flow into your life. If it’s not flowing like you want, figure out what’s plugging up the hole.

5. You are in a relationship that is not fulfilling but you stay because you are either afraid of hurting the other person or you think maybe this is the best you can do. You deserve to have it exactly as you want it. You get one life. That’s it. You’ll never get the chance to look back on your life and say do-over. Make it extraordinary and surround yourself every day with someone who thinks you hung the moon.

6. You do your job because you’re good at it, not because it pays you what you are worth and because you are passionate about the work. Those who have achieved the greatest success in their lives are those who have figured out exactly what it is they were designed to do and then do it. Figure out your purpose. If you don’t know how and you want to be blown away, check out Beath Davis.

7. You allow other people to decide your life. Playing the victim role is incredibly dangerous and if you listen to people who are down and out or have no success in their life, 9 out of 10 they will blame someone else. But, if they were suddenly successful and everything was coming up roses who do you think they would blame? Themselves right? You have as much control over making things right in YOUR life. Remember it’s not what happens to you, it’s what you do about it that matters.

8. You tolerate a hostile work or home environment. If you want to live a life of abundance you cannot surround yourself with toxic people, places, or things. It might be difficult but you have to distance yourself from toxic people or remove yourself from the situation all together. It’s a matter of life and death.

9. You avoid confrontation at all costs, even if it results in your own suffering. Some people believe all confrontations are bad. Not true. Confrontations can be opportunities to re-direct and make things better. You have to look out for yourself because if you don’t, nobody else will.

10. You constantly say yes to others and no to yourself. This is probably the greatest challenge for women, especially mothers. You HAVE to put yourself first or everyone else will suffer. I heard a great analogy the other day about this. Think of yourself as the principle. You never want to spend the principle – only the interest. So, pay yourself first and build up the principle so you can give more of yourself away in the end.

So, what’s the verdict? Are you on sale? If so, do everything possible this week to start upping your price. You are one-of-a-kind and you should get every penny you’re worth!

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